Jane and I got a bit more introspective this week with our chat–it is one that I believe is so very important for all of us who are interested in enjoying some peace of mind and soul should pay attention too. It is also important to tune into this because it will help you manage your guilt and shame issues more clearly and it will help to clear things up regarding our place in our own lives–focus on your own mental and spiritual freedom. Enjoy. Any comments are welcome-please send them to : email@example.com
It’s good to be back to Truth Talkin’ Thursdays with Jane. This week we begin a conversation about are the priorities we establish for ourselves really all that important and how they can interfere with our happiness in our personal life and our professional life. When we believe that our hard work now and our dedication to the ‘priorities’ are more important than almost anything else we begin to find ourselves in trouble. This is the time when a good number of relationships and families begin to fall apart. That’s because we stopped placing those relationships at the top of our priority list. We stopped nourishing those connections with partners and children. Jane and I point out some basic things we can do to re-establish those relationships and you’ll be surprised at how easy it is to do. Just click the little arrow twice.
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Greetings –Jane and I have been speaking about the need to reform education and how important it is that we learn more about what education is supposed to be. Have you ever asked the school principal or someone on the board of education for your particular school district what is the purpose of education? Why is it important for your children to have more of a say in the education they receive? Why is it important for the children to have more of a say in the direction that their education needs to take. Children need to have a active role to play in planning and selecting the career they are interested in learning more about or would like to pursue. After all it is their life we are talking about . Check out what else we have to say about the importance of being an active participant in designing what you child’s educational plan will look like.
Diary: Day-This week I was reminded that if something seems or sounds too good to be true it likely is. We, in North America, have had it pretty good for a long time especially when it comes to governments and leaders. For the most part our southern friends have had reasonably good, reasonably stable leadership of some kind to guide them through the tribulations of days that were bothersome or trouble some. In Canada we haven’t always been so lucky. That appears to be what has happened in North America in the last while. Trump, with no class and no style, no sense of decorum or propriety and no understanding of the global importance that goes along with the job is settling in for remainder of the four year term that he was given after an embarrassing and juvenile way of campaigning. I’m not sure he even talked about policy-any policy. He just garbled on about some characteristic he could poke fun at regarding each candidate that dared to challenge him. Again so typical of a school yard bully. Nice going Donnie. North America is real proud of you.
Recently I read that if you we to take a pig into an upscale haberdashery, outfitted him with a well designed and well made suit of clothes, a pair of expensive shoes, silk tie (yes some men still wear them), and a hand cut and hand stitched tailored shirt and then dressed him up that at the end of it all you would have is a very well dressed PIG. No matter how you dress Donald up and teach him how to speak properly he will always be what amounts to nothing but that pig in the haberdashery. Trudeau, on the other hand, seemed able to pull it off. He had quite a few of us convinced he was the real deal–shame on us-shame on me. However, Pierre Elliott Trudeau, his father, was who and what he purported to be. He had smarts and he had balls and he knew when to employ the use of each. Unfortunately his son was/is not as fortunate. If both Trump and Trudeau were in front of me now I would refer them to the photo of Clint and ask them to read the caption aloud and then comment on its content. I am sure the answers would be enlightening.
From someone as sad and as morally bankrupt as Donnie (Little Hands) Trump there really is little hope that he will ever ‘get it’. He is destined to float on the eternal cesspool he vowed to drain with all the other ‘swamp dwellers’ he invited in to feed at the public trough until they can gorge themselves no more. Even his own ‘party friends’ are getting fed up with his boring shenanigans. He has become predictable by his ignorant tweets that depict more of a spoiled school boy than a grown man who is supposed to understand the importance and the couth it takes to function effectively in such a social and public setting. He enjoys no values except greed, no compassion or insight, and certainly no moral compass of any kind. He fancies himself to be a very bright and intelligent person. I guess it’s possible to learn a thing or two if you have been bankrupt as many times as he has. He shows he has learned the fine art of bullying others and intimidating competitors.
But with Justin Trudeau we hoped we were getting a different type of behavior. He was supposed to know and protect/preserve the sanctity of the office. Instead we got a more polished brand with a ‘snappier’ exterior but the same duplicity as we have witnessed south of us for the last two years. We are critical of Donnie’ Little Hands’ because, unfortunately what he does and says reflects on us all. I remember hearing somewhere that “bombs know no boundaries.” We are seen as a global partner with someone we share the territory with and that makes us just like him.
Trudeau is different in that he had witnessed how to navigate politics from one of the best and seems to have learned nothing. What both of these people don’t seem to grasp is the lasting and lingering stink of corruption that surrounds both of them and our respectful countries. They haven’t just tried to cheat the system (we would expect that from Trump) but they have, especially in Trudeaus’ case, traded away any hope that we could have a decent, honest, and productive government that we, as Canadians, could hold up for the world to see and say that we are proud to be Canadians–THAT’S GONE.
So how do we prevent a repeat of a guy like Trump coming to power. Trump could not operate or survive in a system where he couldn’t berate and mock his opponents or where he could lie, without accountability, more often than being truthful.
There are three basic things that would need to change and therein lies the problem: Do we or the Americans have the political will to amend the appropriate laws of the land?
- Candidates cannot state or claim they possess or are aware of certain facts that, if challenged, cannot be defended or proven. Claim without proof results in that candidate resigning from any future debates, meetings or discussions until they are able to provide the documented truth they claim exists.
- Candidates will use proper names and appropriate identifications when referring to other participants. Failure to do so means they are no longer eligible to participate in the immediate ongoing debate or discussion.
- Participants will not make any comments, proclamations or interrupt another candidate in any way until that candidate relinquishes the floor. If they do then they will be asked to leave the floor for the remainder of the debate or discussion.
If a candidate continues to offend at future meetings or refuses to acknowledge the 1,2,3, amendments then their name(s) are withdrawn from the ballot at poling booths come election day. Perhaps a bit Draconian but needed to keep people like Donald Trump respectful like it or not. Perhaps viewers and others would have a chance to hear and decide for themselves what the candidate is talking about–policies and issues may actually be presented instead of the incessant disrespect that now passes for sarcasm or humor. In any event belittling someone or someones’ message does not add anything to the conversation except a demonstration of horrible manners and a bad case of diarrhea of the mouth.
That’s how I see things. Agree or disagree–your choice but let me know by sending me an email at email@example.com or go to my web page at jimcloughley.com
All the best, Jim
Greetings–There is growing concern among our children, parents and an increasing number of teachers that the system that has served to educate our children over the past 100+years is no longer relevant and connected to the needs and skills that our kids will have demonstrate if they are to have a chance to compete for good paying jobs. There is so much more to discuss and I suspect we will in the coming weeks.
If you as a care giver have any interest in knowing more and becoming informed about how you can help to rectify this problem, and it is a problem now, then please go to my website at jimcloughley.com and check out some of the information that I have posted there. No obligation to buy anything–this is simply the start of providing a solid discussion about what we need to do to ensure that our kids are as well prepared as they can be to survive in the new economies that demand so much more than what school and programs today are providing. In a nut shell we suggest that we need to be teaching our kids how to think and not what to learn.
All too often we tend to focus on the negative stuff that goes on in our lives and we tend to overlook the good stuff. Jane and I are talking about how we deserve to enjoy those good times whether they are few in numbers or if we have been blessed with some great events. Our lives must been seen in both lights if we are to see our value as human beings. We can learn a great deal by remembering the good things–it helps us to remember that good things will come our way again and that we need to work through the not so good things with that in mind. One of the things that we can do to balance out those times that seem overwhelming is try to think about ‘when was the best time of your life’? When was it–what was happening and what came from that.
Rarely do we have an opportunity to participate in being a part of creating a life changing event. When I think of those enormous life changing events I’m talking about the discovery of insulin in 1921 by Banting and Best or Fleming who developed penicillin in 1928. Being more basic the wheel was invented around 3500 years before Christ walked the earth. X-rays, telephones, computers, the internet, gun powder, fire, medical vaccines for polio, and electricity were really milestones that would be considered vital to the development of human beings. Some would argue that splitting the atom was the single-most important thing that we ever did when we think about all of the things that came from that achievement. There is no question that these are examples of massive importance and there are arguments pro and con for so many other inventions and innovations.
However, here we are today with a rare opportunity to influence one of the most important developmental shifts in our existence as human beings and I’d wager that very few people are even aware of what I ‘m talking about nor would they equate it to something that they are capable of influencing or contributing to.
Everyday so many parents send their children off to a building somewhere where there are professional educators responsible for enlightening their kids and expected to prepare them for what? When I have asked the following questions of some teachers, some parents or business people “What is the purpose of education?” or “What is the goal of education”? no one has been able to provide a clear concise answer. So the question remains–why do we send our kids off to be educated?
Most parents did mention ‘to make sure that the kids can get a good job and be employable.’ Others say so that they can be self sufficient and provide a good life for their families. Nothing wrong with that but many of the kids themselves aren’t buying it. They want so much more and aren’t getting it. If that was all it is about for them they could learn enough studying the internet to gain enough information to “pass” school exams. We are turning out too many kids who don’t feel that their educations, or what is passing for an education, is doing anything more than turning out robots who are being programmed to learn the same things as each other to produce a uniform work force for industry. If this sounds familiar its the same idea–the same thinking–that was put forth over 100 years ago. The goal for educating our kids seems to be the same now as it was during the Industrial Age in Europe. Although the world has changed dramatically, due to the amazing growth of technology, the way we prepare our children to survive in that new world hasn’t changed much at all.
Please consider the rise in student drop out rates, why do so many college graduates find it difficult to get a job, why is there more gang growth and gang violence, more suicides among our young folks, more instances of mental/emotional illness, and a waning interest in our children when it comes to being excited about learning in general. We often hear our kids saying “why do I have to learn this stupid stuff” or “I hate this stuff-I could care less about this or that”? Our kids have their own ideas and goals about their futures but folks don’t appear to be listening. The school system has its own ideas about what they–the learners need to learn and how they need to learn it. Rote learning is still the popular delivery system despite all the indications and evidence to the contrary.
There is so much more to say about this topic. You can go to my web site at jimcloughley.com for more information about this but consider that our educational system is trying to prepare our kids for a life and a future by employing an approach that is out dated and irrelevant. We have no idea at all about what job market and opportunities will exist because technology is changing so quickly. J0bs available now may not exist in two or three years so how can an old approach satisfy the qualifications needed to succeed? How will our children succeed if they are not ready or educated to succeed. Our success as a race–the Human Race–depends upon our ability to adapt and prepare the next generation of thinkers, innovators, creators, problem solvers and collaborators. It is up to us to make sure they have all the tools they need to get that job done and right now we are not doing a very good job of making that happen. The old system trains our kids to retain data–to memorize stuff.
How much of what you learned in high school do you remember today? Not much would be my guess. What is needed and right now is the creation of a new paradigm concerning how and what our children are learning. We need to be teaching our kids HOW TO LEARN and not WHAT TO LEARN. They will take care of the rest on their own. They are so much smarter than we give them credit for.
If learning more as a parent or as a student is important to you–If you want to find out how you can be a part of this extremely unique opportunity to shape the world in a new way-and we can do this-become informed about what is coming so that you can contribute to this rare but necessary shift in thinking. Go to Google and type in learner-centered education.
I’ll be writing a great deal more about this new opportunity to influence our survival in the weeks to come.
Anyways, that’s how I see things.
All the best, Jim Please send any thoughts or comments to me at: firstname.lastname@example.org or go to jimcloughley.com
Thanks for stopping by–
I am grateful to be back and able to pass along some wisdom that I learned contained in an email that a friend sent me. I can’t even say who authored it. But it turned out to be very important to me at a time when I needed to make sense of what was happening around me.
It has been said that we are likely to feel most alive the closer we get to death. I agree. Recently I experienced some news regarding a health issue that lead me to believe it was entirely possible I was living on borrowed time and there was very little that I could do to change that reality.
I recognized how easy it is for some of us to get so caught up in ‘living’ our lives on a day-to-day basis that we overlook or pay little attention to what are the most important lessons for us to really focus on. We spend so much valuable time trying to make up for past mistakes or we paint ourselves as people who are unworthy of having a good life. What I realized in this time is that each new day is an opportunity that I deserve to begin a new way of living and that I and only I can make that happen for me. I said more than once to myself during this time that if I got another chance to live my life again I would be much more attentive to what are REALLY the important things in life. Many of us we believe that if we ‘get on with life-if we get down off the meat hook we have been displayed on for much too long’ that that somehow makes us terrible self centered egotistical people who are not decent human beings. It is difficult to live a life of service to humanity or to enjoy simple moments of pleasure with friends if we can’t get passed some punishing idea that somehow we should never forgive ourselves.
I mentioned an email I received earlier. Six short ‘stories’ which remind me of how important each of us is to each other. We have wisdom to share and gifts to grant to each other as well..
“SIX LITTLE STORIES”
Once all the villagers decided to pray for rain.
On the day of prayer all the people gathered,
but only one boy came with an umbrella.
It is important for me to live my life by what I believe to be true for me and not to get caught up in what others think of me or would wish for me. My faith is a result of recognizing that we have to be ready to accept good things into our world and we never know when that will happen. If we are not ready for it we could miss it when it comes to us.
When you throw babies in the air,
they laugh because they know you will catch them.
We have very little if we don’t earn the trust of others. When someone we care about gives us their trust we have earned something very special in deed. Real trust is to be valued and honored. But should we lose that trust that doesn’t make us ‘bad’ people. We are not perfect. We will make mistakes. It does, however, indicate that we have much to learn about who we are before we go hoping for trust again.
Every night we go to bed
without any assurance of being alive the next morning,
but still we set the alarms to wake up.
I see many people walking around who have a far away look in their eyes. They look, talk, and walk like they have given up on life or they believe that life has given up on them. I would suggest these are people with little or no hope in their lives. It saddens me to see that because I understand it doesn’t have to be that way. Awful things happen to us I agree. But if we are not able to see the good in others or to witness the good deeds of others we are already dead. Look into the eyes of a newborn and you will see hope.
We plan big things for tomorrow
in spite of zero knowledge of the future.
How can we know what the future holds for us? That’s why it’s called the future. If we look around us we see fascinating things happen to others all the time. We hear stories of miracles all the time. Just being alive is a miracle for some. Miracles can happen to us as well but never will if we don’t believe they can. We have to be ready to receive them. Have you ever done something nice for someone just because . . . ? What did that feel like? Good I’ll bet. Just when you were feeling sad or depressed you were able to feel ‘good’ because you did something other than worry or feel sorry for yourself. Good things can happen if we open the door and let them into our hearts.
We see the world suffering,
but still we get married and have children.
The world truly can be a terrible place full of suffering but love is about us and not about them. We don’t need to live by what others think or do-at least not in our hearts.
On an old man’s shirt was written a sentence
‘I am not 80 years old
I am sweet 16 with 64 years of experience.’
A little bit of attitude can go a long way to getting what you want. It is attitude which determines the quality of our lives and that is something that you can control.
Have a happy day and live your life like the six stories.
All the best, Jim
Comments welcomed-send them to email@example.com. and I’ll get back to you.
Jane and I got to it today talking about why I don’t agree with making New Years resolutions. people do them or state them with very little chance of being successful at realizing them. There are many who can quit doing something but the problem is they can’t stay ‘quit’ and if you can’t stay ‘quit’ then the job becomes more difficult the next time you feel the need to try again. If you are interested in trying to live up to your resolution watch the video below for some hints about how to be more successful at it–thanks for stopping by–all the best, Jim
Greetings to you all, It has been awhile since Jane and I last posted anything. We decided to take care of some other business that had been pressing and of course it took longer than anticipated. But we are back here now and thanks to all those folks who wondered where we were and what was happening. Appreciate your interest. This week we got talking about things we take for granted and how trying to prepare for the unknown is really hard to do–usually at the cost of our mental health. We mention some basics that could be helpful if this is something that you find yourself doing from time to time.