Isn’t It About Time . . . ?


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The purpose of this article is not to get all weepy and sloppy or down and negative but rather to encourage people to understand that they have been presented a gift and with each new day they will be presented another gift called ‘TIME’. It will last exactly 24 hours and not any longer. And it is an finite resource meaning that we only have so many ‘new’ days to receive it before it no longer graces us. Each day that goes by is a day we will never experience again. Some will be gifted with 30 years some will have, perhaps, 80 years to share and experience our humanity. There is no way, really, of knowing who will get what or for how long and there is no chance of creating more time. One of the great tragedies in human development is that young people, meaning little ones to those in their mid to late 30’s, don’t understand the importance and the value of ‘time’. This fact helps explain why some people try to relive their 20’s–they just refuse to grow up. We even have a name for this time frame–we call it ‘our mid-life crisis’.

Time is the ultimate gift and yet few give it much thought. We get so caught up with facing the world with all its complexities that we offer little thought about how each day will never come again and that we need to live life to its fullest every day doing what we enjoy doing. Most of us just assume that the next day will continue to appear-forever. They are wrong.

I remember when I was a little guy and I would look at my parents and my grand parents and say or think:’I will never be as old as my parents and certainly not as old as my grand parents. 40 was old and such a long ways away. Younger kids are often heard to say they can’t wait to get older so that they could do ‘older things’ like drive a car or go to the pub to drink and party. However, the older we get the more important time becomes and the faster it goes by. There is an inner sense that makes us aware that ‘time’ is growing shorter. There is just no way to slow down the passing of time. There is a panic of sorts that sets in and an urgency to do as much as you can before you can’t. When nearing retirement what near senior hasn’t said if only they could have known at 40 what they know now how different their life would have been. Some lessons are only taught by time and this is one of them.

So how can we manage our time differently. To assume that ‘we will have plenty of time afterward’–when we retire that is– is playing a fools game. What has to happen for us to get more from the time we have been given? One thing we can do is downsize–learn to live on less. If we can do this then we can quit working earlier and enjoy more. Many are beginning to do just that. As has been said:’You can’t take it with you’ so why not enjoy the fruits of your labour while you can appreciate the gift of time. I believe this process starts with introspection. We need to start asking ourselves some questions about how we have managed our lives to date and are we doing what we want to be doing or do we feel as though we are just hanging on for our very lives.

I have come to understand that there are two things that will suck the life out of us if we let them and by doing so will they will ‘steal’ our time. One of those is plotting our revenge to demonstrate what? Too many people don’t understand that to hang onto plotting revenge is to allow the ‘other guy’ to win. You are spending time thinking about someone other than yourself and the likelihood is that they don’t even care. The other thing is not allowing ourselves to forgive. That can mean forgiving ourselves for something we have done or something that someone else has done. Forgiveness means that I will no longer allow guilt, shame or anger power over me. I choose to forgive-not for ‘them’ but for me. It helps me to regain my control over my emotional stability. I become free again.

Other things to consider:

1. Do I live to work or work to live?
2. Do I (we) really need the secondary income to make ends meet or do we do it so we can have more toys?
3. What is the cost attached to chasing more money especially if more money isn’t necessary to maintain a particular standard of living?
4. Do my or have my relationships with family and children suffered because of my decision to chase more money?
5. Given that money can provide comfort to some degree does it buy me happiness?
6. How much money is enough?
7. If you could retire right now what would you really enjoy doing?
8. If you could go back in time and make some other decisions what would you do/decide differently?
9. What is one thing that you could begin to do now that would provide you with more happiness or contentment?
10.Is it true for you that time is going by much more quickly now that you are getting older? (The older you get the faster it goes)

Too of us many live in the future–the I wish place. In doing so we forget how important it is to live in the present. If you have things you want to do–get them done. Life is to be experienced not endured. It’s a matter of perspective. Are you in charge of your life and if the answer is ‘yes’ then what is stopping you from having or experiencing some of the things that you want to do. If the answer is ‘no’ then what is it you need to do to change that? If you truly believe that you have all the time in the world to do whatever you want to do then you are destined to be very disappointed with the choices you made when your time comes. “Time stops for no man” is a valuable saying. True happiness is directly related to how you choose to spend your time. Spend it wisely.

Anyways, that’s how I see it.

All the best, Jim

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2 thoughts on “Isn’t It About Time . . . ?”

  1. Good morning Jim 🙂

    I finally found some time to relax and read your article. I truly enjoy reading about your thoughts. They are very intriguing and encourage me to ponder a while on the subject matters.

    You are quite correct in saying that children always want to get older faster to enjoy the things that “older people” do. In my situation, I strongly believe I raced through time as quickly as possible, to “get things over with”, or “to make it through” life as I saw it during my first 40 years. Isn’t that a scary thought?

    It has only been within the last few years that I actually stopped and looked around me on a daily basis and literally SAW what surrounds me. The gorgeous landscape, the beauty in every season, the blue skies (even the stormy skies), the fresh air (where I live anyways LOL), the wildlife. All of these things are taken for granted by so many that they go unseen and sadly, even feared.

    Just the other day my step-son said to his father and I, “I wonder who is going to die next.”

    He went on to list a number of people that have passed away in the last few years. At thirty-six years old he has begun to realize that people are dying. He, like everybody else, knows people pass away. Yet, as his father explained to him, as one gets older, you meet more and more people, and these people are aging just as you are, or become ill. So you are bound to know somebody that has died, and are confronted with death more often.

    At 65 my husband reads the obituaries daily to see if somebody he knows has passed away. He says it is “to make sure his own name isn’t listed.”

    As time passes you realize just how short life can be. When seniors pass away people usually comfort themselves by thinking that the person had a long happy life. It is only when a child, or young adult meets an untimely or unexpected death, that we realize our days are numbered.

    We do get caught up in the “rat race” and feel we don’t have the time to “stop and smell the roses.” Especially in this day and age where it takes a lot of income to survive, even with just the basics. In order to make that income, sometimes it takes one, two, or three jobs at minimum wage, as that is all that is available.

    I finally realized that I HAD to stop. I was killing ME. I moved out of the chaotic life of the big city and moved to a rural area.

    Life still has its trials and tribulations, but I always stop to absorb the good things. We have approximately 8000 square feet of vegetable gardens that I tend all season long. The smells of the vegetation, the fertile soil, the onions, the pollen from the corn stalks, even the fragrance from the squash flowers all overwhelm me at times. At the beginning of the growing season I have to pollinate the tomato and squash blossoms until the pollinators arrive. When doing this I am feel the softness of the petals on my fingers. I take notice of the bright yellow colour of the pollen on the squash blossoms. I watch as the honey bees arrive from the nearby man-made hives and busy themselves climbing over the centres of the flowers covering themselves with the pollen granules.

    Instead of looking at the gardens as a chore or back-breaking work, I breathe in life. I get exercise and fresh air.

    I rarely sleep through an entire night. I love to stand outside and look at the vast number of stars that shine brightly against the black sky. The full moon lights up the night enough that I can see the silhouettes of the trees and even the deer as they watch me from the bottom of the yard.

    My advice to anybody would be to take time away from the city and go to the country. Get back to nature. Experience it. It will FORCE you to stop.

    And when you stop, you will see very clearly the life you have been missing.

    And only then, will you be able to begin to live.

    Only then, will you realize how short life is, and begin to appreciate each day and its worth.

    … just sayin’.

    Sorry for the lengthy response, but I have truly realized that I have literally wasted many years of life and will never get it back.

    However, I have started to live the new life I have.

  2. Greetings–thanks for the feedback, the time it took to send it and your interest in ‘seeing something different’. I had heard from some other readers that they would like me to write more about ‘life and worldly’ stuff and so I tried to accommodate that wish without getting away from what I like to write about and that is how I see the world I live in and sharing ideas about how to make it a better place. I do appreciate your comment–send me some ideas around what you want to see more of and I would be pleased to pass along what I think and how I see things. I’m Irish–I have no difficulties in doing that. Thanks again for taking the time to send me your thoughts–all the best–Jim


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