“Greed Before Conscience Means Death To The Soul”–JC
Look at the man at the top of this page and then ask yourself who he reminds you of? How many times have we felt like this or been this guy? Decision making is one of the toughest things we do in our lives and we make them almost, if not, every day. No wonder some of us are a mess. No wonder some of us experience depression, mental health problems, irritability, sleepless nights and fatigue.
So I put together a list of 9 important considerations/thoughts that will help make your decision making a much more pleasant process and will leave you feeling pretty good about how you went about your business. Your family, business colleagues, workmates and your friends will all benefit.
1. NEVER make an emotional decision when in an emotional state of mind. They seldom work out well and we often pay dearly for them later. This of course changes when life or lives are immediately threatened.
2. We need to accept and understand that the important decisions we make each day have an impact on so many others around us and that we have an obligation to make our decisions with everyone’s best interest at heart, if that’s possible. I mention this not to add any pressure but to help us get the fact that we are not alone in the universe–that we are connected to many other human beings on the planet and we owe it to them to be sure we make our decisions as best we can.
3. Always try to make favourable decisions that others (those around you like-workmates, your employer, family or friends) are likely to benefit from as well. When that happens those others are likely to do the same thing in return when they consider how their decisions might impact us.
4. We put tremendous pressure on ourselves to always make the correct decision. More often than not we think about all the negative consequences if our decision goes south and end up either procrastinating or making a poor decision just to have it done. The honest facts are that we will NOT always make the right choices. It is impossible to always be right. There are too many variables that we have no control over to be 100% correct all the time. The best thing we can do is our due diligence and then make the best choice we can. At those times, when we are not as successful as we hoped, we need to look for the learning that comes from this experience so that we don’t make the same mistake next time. Being overly self critical serves no useful purpose and just gets in our way of the next major decision to be made. We cannot see the unforeseen.
5. We need to be sure to gather as much information as we can from knowledgeable sources be they articles, research documents or first hand accounts from reputable sources so that we can be as well informed as possible.
6. It is not enough to acknowledge that we ‘did some checking around first.’ If we are making a decision that is sure to impact others we also need to be sure that we sought out more than one source. If we only look for information that we want to find or hear that is not a solid basis from which to decide anything.
7. We need to be sure that the decision we might make is not just about our own well being. It is true that our decision will not benefit everyone and usually that can’t be helped. Like being an umpire in a ball game. The decision to declare the runner safe at home plate will be loved by some and hated by others. Such is the nature of decisions made. Go back and look at number 2 again. Has anything happened recently that could impact our decision before we make it? What often comes into play here is considering the greater good vs. my own greater good. Which one are we more concerned about?
No one likes to be criticized and no one enjoys seeing others suffer at their hand so to speak. However, if we choose to follow the above as best we can the probability is that we will be able to sleep at night and that we will be OK with the person who looks back at us when we are holding our toothbrush in the morning.
Anyways, that’s how I see it, all the best, Jim
Comments are always welcome and other suggestions that can be added to the list are welcomed as well.