The Week That Was. . . In Praise Of Women

 “A complete society is created when ALL its people grant each other respect, dignity and an opportunity to be all they can be free of coercion or control. When this happens equality becomes a by-product. It has nothing to do with being male or female-nothing”–JC


When Hillary Clinton won the nomination for the DNC last week much of the celebration was about her being the first woman to gain such a nod. Obviously I don’t have a stake in the proceedings since I don’t have a vote but I was hoping that the celebration would have been about Hillary being the best person for the job amongst those so sought to win. She will now have an opportunity to cancel a run at the presidency by a person who is clearly someone who is struggling with the idea of decency, respect, diplomacy, which doesn’t register on his radar and a political savvy that is concerning by its total absence concerning anything that comes out of his mouth.

I was wrong and, again, another golden opportunity was missed to illustrate the point that gender is second to the fact that she was the best and most qualified human being to lead the party to victory in November. Here we are again taking the discussion away from the idea that we are all first and foremost human beings and that needs to be what is important and not the size, shape and function of someone’s body. Do we need males and females in the world? Sure do. Our very existence depends on it. Do I enjoy the company of women around me and as a part of my life? Sure do. Not having women around me would be like living in a world full of red Volkswagons–pretty boring stuff not to mention not having any mental and emotional challenges that add excitement to how I see the world I live in. Women bring an exciting vision and meaning to the world-one that should be celebrated. But I always try to consider women human beings first just as I would want women to see me in the same fashion. No more or less than that.

 5 Things That We Can Do To Keep Our Relationships Healthy:

1. Continue to support our partners dreams of being all they can be and be assured that our support is freely given. Our support is vital to our partners’ success.

2. Encourage each other the freedom to speak and think for themselves without sarcasm, mockery or clearly indicating that you are not interested in what they have to say.

3. Acknowledge a job well done. Encouragement is always a valued and accepted gift.

4. Sometimes partners need to seek ‘alone’ time to deal with challenges in the relationship. Not everything that is wrong has to be-or can be-corrected immediately. People just don’t work that way. Sometimes creating a bit of space is the best course of action.

5. Be complimentary. Don’t miss an opportunity to say something pleasing or ‘nice.’ Don’t be afraid to demonstrate that you care about the other person. We sometimes find it easier to show our anger than we do our love for our partners. Try turning that around.

Music Video Of The Week:

We are human beings first but we are different from one another and those differences need to be celebrated, accepted and understood by each and every one of us. It is our differences that bring us together. That’s how we make this work. Enjoy the video.

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Anyways, that how I see things. All the best, Jim

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Does Anybody Know What It Is? . . . Does Anybody Care?

As much as I try to get away from this topic it continues to edge it’s way back into the public conversation and I feel compelled to add my two cents. For me, however, this is not about immigrants and the mixed feelings concerning that issue. This is about what we were told multiculturalism was about, what it represented and how Canada would benefit greatly. I am speaking about the grand experiment that was championed by Pierre Elliot Trudeau (still my favourite PM) back in the early-mid twentieth century. I am always amazed at the spin that is put on programs and ideologies when certain groups want to have their way as was the case here. The timing for this ideology to be introduced to us was perfect. The ideas around Peace , Love and Brotherhood were running at a feverish level especially among the ‘flower children’ so debate or opposition was near none. The ideology is about allowing large numbers of immigrants into the country to add people power to a faltering economy. It was also about introducing a variety of cultures and different ways of living into this dual-culture country of Canada so that French and Anglo ideals and culture would not be all that defined the country on the world stage.

I don’t have any problem with the concept of multiculturalism nor do I have a problem with offering people from different walks of life the opportunity to come and share the bounty of this great land. As I have said before–there is more than enough to go around for all of us. My problem is what we have given up to host these folks and what we continue to give up to this day. In 25 years and perhaps less the true settlers and founders of Canada–those whose blood lines are connected to those brave souls who carved out  an existence and created a formula for living here–will become the minority in our own country. Our culture, our ideology and our way of life will all but be a blip on the big screen. What will be the reality created by those seers who believe that they are the enlightened ones and the true thinkers among us? So many questions abound such as:

Is the cost of having a multicultural society worth the loss of our cultural assets, our freedoms and our uniqueness in the world?

–Other cultural groups come to Canada from a variety of global villages and they bring their customs and culture with them of course. However, our leaders seem to think it is OK for us to give up some of our customs and culture to allow our new guests an opportunity to enjoy their customs and culture in the process. Instead of each  group sharing their cultures and customs with each other to learn more about each other it has become an ‘either or’ scenario. We have become accustomed to giving up our identity as a nation so that others who come to us can enjoy more of theirs whether we like it or not. How do we feel about that?  What price do we pay for our generosity, tolerance and acceptance?

–Back then we were told that by allowing a huge number of folks to come to Canada that would bolster our economy because we could produce more from our resource base and therefore become much more prosperous as a nation. Our standard of living would certainly be increased. Apparently that has not happened and yet we continue to increase that labour pool each year even when there aren’t enough jobs for our own citizens. So that argument doesn’t fly. Why are we still being told that the opposite is true? Apparently new Canadians or those who are set to enter the country-legally-are receiving or will receive more benefit by being here and accessing our social systems than they are giving back to the country through taxation and so on. Why are we not addressing this issue?

–One great concern of mine is that gender equality will soon become a major issue or concern. When we consider that the majority of new comers to Canada are coming from countries where women are not respected or considered equal to men, how long might it be before that notion of inequality begins to find traction here? It is certainly likely that women who are arriving from those foreign lands would oppose any strength or movement that has developed here in the last 50 years.

–The unfortunate part of all this is: the people who stand up to pose legitimate questions about process and ideology, culture, heritage and the economy are branded racists and all rational, healthy and necessary debate is halted before it can receive a fair and public hearing.

I am not suggesting that we shelve the idea of multiculturalism-not at all. What I am suggesting is that we take another look at the ideology, vision and philosophy of the program and make adjustments to it that are at least as favourable to all those who participate and not just those who are coming here for a better life.


Anyways, that’s how I see it, Jim

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