It seems that the older we get the more we are interested in knowing why we are here. What am I supposed to be doing here? Is this all there is? I work hard all my life to do what when I retire? What is my purpose-my reason for being here? Many folks get frustrated, depressed, saddened and uninspired the longer this goes on with no clear answer on the horizon. Being no different from many, I have given this question a great deal of thought as well. But when the answer came to me it was quite simple–really. My purpose is to have purpose. Nothing more and and nothing less. I need to become involved in the world around me. I need to share what I have learned with others so they can go about discovering their purpose. Then they too can share their findings with others. I need to be of service to those who struggle a little or are challenged by life sometimes and help them recognize that they have value and worth in the world and that they are important.
Andy Rooney Knows Best:
I considered Andy Rooney to be one of the most influential and brilliant people of the last 50 years. He enjoyed a basic insight into human behaviour and understood the meaning of life in a way that few others were equal to. Here are some of my favourite insights from a list he published a while back: “I learned. . . ”
** that having a child fall asleep in your arms is one of the most peaceful feelings in the world.
** that simple walks with my father around the block on summer nights when I was a child did wonders for me as an adult.
** that life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes.
** that money doesn’t buy class
** that the easiest way for me to grow as a person is to surround myself with people who are smarter than I am.
** that love, not time, heals all wounds.
** that no one is perfect until you fall in love with them.
** that when you harbour bitterness, happiness will dock elsewhere.
** that the best classroom in the world is at the feet of an elderly person.
** that when your newborn grandchild holds your little finger in his little fist, you’re hooked for life.
Thank you Andy–the world misses you.
Parenting Tip For The Week:
Parents often get concerned about how much time their children are playing on their own. This is not about watching TV alone but actually playing on their own–entertaining themselves. What is good play time?–doing what? for how long? Well there is no appropriate length of time. Sometimes they will look after themselves all afternoon and sometimes it is only for an hour or two. The main point is are they having fun? Are they being destructive or are they making things-creating things? When they play alone they can be whoever they want to be. A spaceman one day and a lion tamer the next. They can ‘travel’ to a desert one day and a mountain top the next. Alone time allows his/her mind to be creative and explore different activities and behaviours. But kids also benefit greatly by playing with us as parents. This is a time when we can teach them social norms without it being boring or a lecture of some sorts. For instance if your daughter wants to have a tea party and be the ‘hostess’ there will be a chance to talk about proper table manners that ALL kids need to understand. Make it fun and enjoy the opportunities while they last because they don’t last near as long as we want them to.
So the answer is there is no answer. Share in the opportunities that present themselves. A balance will usual find it’s place.
Anyways, that’s how I see it–all the best, Jim
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