The truth is that I’m not sure what that pic is about–what is it? How did it come to look like that? Because it is so crazy looking does that suggest that it has more or less value as a living thing? Is it dangerous to be around? What does it want? Have we become so fixated on the ‘outer’ shell that the snap judgements we make from that momentary first time introduction lead us to forget to consider the inner make up of others who share this space with us?
Clearly I need to be reminded more often that no matter which critters appear and what they look like when they do show up they have a right and a place to exist in the world as we know it–at least until they prove otherwise. I have also learned that there is a vast difference between hating someone or something and not being comfortable around them or it. I certainly need to be more cognizant of this fact because I can be very judgemental of things or people that I don’t understand. I guess sometimes it is just easier to be critical of things that appear different than it is to take the time to learn more about them before going off on them or it.
My video of the week:
I remain fascinated by the instincts and the intuition of the beings which live all around me. Videos such as this go a great distance for me when I begin to consider the discussion around nature versus nurture. You judge–watch this.
Parenting Tip Of The Week:
As parents we are naturally interested in who our kids play with, do they see the world in the same way as our kids, are they ‘good’ kids with similar values, do they have keen imaginations and are they kind and do they share in the ‘sandbox’ or do they bully some of the other kids. There is always the concern about not only who our kids play with but how they play together. Then there is the concern about do they spend enough time alone or too much time alone and not interacting with other kids as much. There is always the need for a working balance.
Our kids need to play with others so that they can learn to negotiate to get their needs met, so that they can learn that by sharing with others those others will likely share with them. They begin to realize more resources at their disposal. They learn more quickly about language skills and social skills and the importance of tolerance and acceptance.
If we let our kids sort out this part of their lives and we keep a ‘quiet’ eye on what is going on in their lives they will usually sort out any problems they might face. If they don’t seem to have many friends a gentle push every once in awhile is good–have a neighbourhood party and invite all the kids around your kids age. Go to places where other kids congregate. Make sure that when your child has a friend or two over that there are lots of resources for them to play with and then let their imaginations take over. Again–age appropriate activities needs to be the focus. If the kids are older they are more likely to create their own ‘play’ environments. As parents we just need to be sure that ‘play’ time is age appropriate. Play time for kids is always an opportunity for parents to discuss teachable moments after their mates have gone home. Remember they learn from us.
Anyways, that’s how I see it–all the best, Jim
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