The above is a pic of a ‘biker’ bar in Florida. Could this be what is in store for some of us who still like to ride?
My weeks usually contain new news and I try to find something for us all to think about–something, that if discussed, might generate some passion in some of us and spur us on to do something out of our ordinary to plant some seeds of change. This week was different.
This week I was reminded time and again about why we seem to be angry with everything and toward everyone. Many don’t take the time to be polite or nice to each other. Others just don’t care any more. That was the opinion of two seniors I overheard talking today about how they each feel that people have come to ‘not care’ much any more about being friendly and polite and caring. They went on to say that even the kids were more rude more often than not. That would not have happened in their day and so on . . .
So their conversation got me to thinking. Of course there is no truth to the statement that ‘everyone’ seems to be this way but it does have a ring of truth to it when looking at why this group dislikes that group and those people have no right to feel that way because . . .
We can’t deny that we are generally more complacent, reluctant, even hopeless, aggravated, edgy and less tolerant as a community of humans than we have been in quite awhile. Considering what I heard, saw and watched this week I might agree with much of what was said. For instance:
–The federal government today announced that 98% of the refugees that we accepted into Canada recently have been placed in permanent housing. Interesting that it only took a few months and yet some of our own citizens who are in need of social housing have been on wait lists for years–Hmmm?
–The justice system is not about dispensing justice any more but rather seem more concerned about public optics and how a particular decision would affect the stability of a particular area of a town or city. When does the penalty for a life taken either purposefully or accidentally depend on who was killed and do the circumstances create this conclusion or that conclusion. I don’t think it should matter whether the victim or the perpetrator is black, white, green, brown, red or anything else. If a person is guilty beyond a reasonable doubt then there needs to be one set of rules that are referred to.
If the majority of criminals are white, black, brown or pink so be it. Perhaps one group seems to be more punished than another simply because the majority of crimes are perpetrated by one particular group more than another. Justice should not be influenced by race, colour, orientation, social standing or local/recent events in a town or community.
–Mike Duffy, obviously a white guy, just got away with crimes that any ‘ordinary’ citizen would have been jailed for in a heart beat. He got away with it because of who he was and that he was, supposedly, in poor health. So what! Pamela Wallin got away with cheating the taxpayers and demonstrating gross negligence of public trust. She skipped because of who she was and because she bought her way out of the crime. She offered to pay back the money AFTER she was caught. She was guilty and didn’t spend a day in jail.
–Police officers, who have been caught on tape, are getting away with beating a person who has been subdued and poses zero threat to anyone. When they get away with that behaviour why would anyone trust in the legal system? Assault is assault whether the perpetrator is a police officer or a criminal. At that point they are both the same and should be treated the same way.
There are many more examples of justice not being the focal point in our judicial system. As long as optics take top billing people will never be comfortable, hopeful or feel safe walking the streets they work so hard to pay for. Perhaps these two seniors have a good point.
Anyways, that’s how I see it. All the best, Jim
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Video Of The Week:
Apparently a call went out for 200 folks to gather at Massey Hall to be involved in an tribute to Prince and 2000 showed up instead. They had never sung together as a group before and this is the beautiful result of that effort–enjoy.
Much has been written about raising fatherless sons and most of the articles have been about the negative side of fatherlessness. There are the powerful statistics that show how disturbing fatherlessness can be to a young man. My suggestions to a mom who is facing this monumental task is this:
Be honest with your son. Tell him that he is loved and cherished but that you can’t completely understand how he must feel not having a father or a strong role model to listen to and to learn from. Help him understand that there will be times when things will get crazy because he might not or will not understand what is going on with him or that he may feel lost and without direction as a man in the world. As his mom you will do your best to help him through his tough times.
This is the tougher part–that you as his mom will encourage him find a strong male role model who can help fill that void. That you, as his mom will not be angry or upset if he decides to confide some of his ‘stuff’ in a male role model outside the boundaries of their relationship. In other words give him permission to find his strength as a young man in other places.
All the best, Jim