The big day has finally come and gone. Most everyone has survived it for another year. I must admit that I tried to approach Christmas in a different way this year because I had found myself, in previous years, feeling rather empty and lost. I realized that I had completely missed feeling the spirit of Christmas. I’m not suggesting that others need to see it as I do. I’m saying that I had lost Christmas and this year I tried to find it. So in our family home we agreed that we would not purchase gifts for anyone-ANYONE-except for our grand daughter who is four. We ended up purchasing 3 boxes of ‘Stuff’ that were available on line for a small amount of cash. The three boxes were delivered as suggested by the company we bought them from and there they sat under our tree. We had absolutely no idea what was in them. When the time came we opened them to see what was what. I began to feel completely at ease. We had not been involved in the shoulder to shoulder fights for a parking spot, the line ups of stressed to the max shoppers looking for last minute bargains in November, the banter around who WANTS what and all the other insanity that people complain about at Christmas. No stress-no over spending, no wrapping, no transporting ‘gifts’ from place to place.
Will Rogers-my favourite summed it up this way: How many of us spend money we haven’t earned, to buy things we don’t want, to impress people we don’t like?” That is what Christmas had become for me.
I decided that over-the-top commercialism, listening to rappers screaming Christmas Carols and so-called divas singing in a range that only a dog could hear would not be on my agenda this year. Instead I went to a Christmas Eve church service. I listened to a choir that bordered on angelic sing traditional carols beautifully and actually witnessed folks who were there simply to experience the gifts of Christmas in their own way. I left there feeling quite surprised at the end of it all. I felt like I caught a glimpse of the real message of what Christmas is REALLY all about. For me it’s about remembering the message of Peace on Earth and Goodwill toward others–these are true gifts. The nice thing is we can share them any time and as often as we like for no particular reason other than it feels good to do it. It is not, afterall, about making Walmart more wealthy. I like it.
This weeks parenting tip:
We need to make sure that our kids feel connected to us at ALL times and not just when they do something that pleases us. They need to know that they have a ‘place at the table’ and that their thoughts and views, although we may not always agree, are important. As parents, we need to show genuine interest in how they see things for their world is much different from the one we live in. It doesn’t mean that they can do whatever they want but it does mean that they are important too and that the door will always be open to them.
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