“WE ARE NOT BORN HATING OTHERS, THAT IS SOMETHING THAT IS TAUGHT TO US”
I have thought about this long and hard. It plaques my sleep and occupies my head, often unwanted, but it won’t go away. I’m speaking of the hypocrisy of some politicians, news reporters, editors, sports reporters and talk show hosts primarily. Their responses and behaviours shouldn’t surprise me but I can frankly and honestly say that I’m getting rather tired of it all. Actually, I’m still rather confused about the positions that some have taken both pro and con. I guess it would be helpful to identify what my ‘issue’ is all about.
Recently, an athlete whose name is Michael Sam, announced to the world that he is a gay athlete and in ensuing conversations said that he just wanted to be known as an athlete and a football player and not a gay athlete. OK. Fair enough. As a football player his sexuality should not come into play. Either he can play at a certain level or he can’t.
Before I continue I’d like to clarify my position right now on the whole gay conversation. I am a heterosexual male. I enjoy being a heterosexual male. It is a lifestyle and a choice that I accept, understand and am quite comfortable with. I say that with no criticism or judgement in my heart for views and opinions and choices that differ from mine especially when they relate to this topic. As I said–provided that no one is adversely affected or hurt or coerced in some way to be other than who they are comfortable being and for how they may see the world they live in. That stands for a gay relationship or a straight relationship. Otherwise I plainly don’t care. If some folks could get their heads out of the backsides long enough to see that gay folks are not dangerous–they are not pedophiles–they are not an abomination but are, simply, folks with a different preference, which is their right, just like the rest of us. So get over yourselves people!! We don’t get to choose nor should we try to influence what or how other people make their choices just to coincide with our own. Their lives don’t belong to us. I accept, understand, and agree that we all need to find someone we can love and share our lives with. Who that person is is none of my business. Besides, I have more important things to concern myself with like the fate of fatherless young men in our society, the fact that you don’t have to go to a foreign land to see starving children, the growing disparity of wealth in our country or the growing imbalance and unfairness shown our elderly. These are the really important issues of the day.
People need to be able to feel free to pursue any relationship they desire and with whomever they desire whether straight or gay. I truly and honestly believe that we are all human beings with the same wants and needs and we need to respect that idea at all times and considering all people.
The issue that sticks in my craw is about how fast some politicians, sports reporters, media reporters, editors and celebrities jump on the ‘politically correct’ band wagon. I understand their need to be on the ‘right’ side of the discussion. For politicians its votes. For the media it is about viewers and market share. For the celebrities it’s box office and keeping their names in the headlines. Don’t want to come down on the short end of that stick that’s for sure. But the thing that disturbs me the most about all of this is that a good number of the people and professionals I just mentioned are vilifying and criticizing and ostracizing those who would risk voicing their opinions on the subject and how THEY feel regarding what is happening. They are not being ‘allowed’, essentially, to say anything negative about what is going on. Where is the freedom in that? That is wrong. It is wrong on so many levels not to mention the concept of freedom of speech. So what if they disagree. They also have rights that need to be protected and the right to disagree is right up there as far as I’m concerned. Someone once said, “I may not like what you have to say but I will defend your right to say it”. Anything else is called censorship.
However, this is the part that confuses me. Why is it important for someone to declare or discuss something so personal and beautiful to the world. It should be a very a private matter between two people who love one another–straight or gay. It doesn’t concern other people. I understand, as best I can, that it seems like a secret that eats away at some. I’m not sure that a public catharsis is the answer any more than I agree with the benefit of gay parades. Heterosexuals don’t have ‘straight parades’–at least none I’m aware of. By doing this it actually polarizes the whole issue and makes it more difficult for gays to be seen as they should be seen and treated as they should be treated. This is difficult to do if on one hand you are saying one thing and on the other demonstrating that you really are quite different. To paraphrase Ghandi–“be the change you want to see”. As for the reporters and politicians etc. check your crap and your personal stuff at the door and just do your job. It is to report the news not create the news. That’s how I see it anyway–Jim
Please pass this article along to your friends with thanks–Jim