I was reminded again this week that time is a finite resource which is taken for granted by most. In a way, I suppose, this reminder is a good thing. It reminds us of things we still have to do and people we need to see. But often it reminds us that it is moving like a run away train and there is no way of stopping it or even slowing it down. So the next best thing, at least what I have figured out anyway , is to honor it and not to waste it on anything that doesn’t bring us some peace, contentment and some sense of being connected and valued by some one. The good news is it most of us are lucky enough to still have a say in how that happens. It is still our choice as to how we spend it and as long as we don’t give that right to choose away we’ll be OK.
This week sure was an eye opener: It began with what I would describe as witnessing human behaviour at it’s most questionable and ending with a whole week of my life being virtually wasted expending energy involving other people who don’t seem to grasp the concept of all for one in all we do when we are working in service to others.
Finally The Program Will Soon Be Ready To go:
Next week I hope to present the beginning of a great network of folks who have developed some extraordinary resources designed to improve the quality of peoples lives across a wide variety of interests. These innovators are experts in their fields who have spent years researching and experiencing life in a very concrete way. More on this next week along with a ‘how to’ connect with them so that you can consider what they have learned and how it can help you as well.
Parenting Tip Of The Week:
This weeks tip represents #9 of a series of 10 tried and true suggestions about how to reconcile and develop a stronger and more satisfying relationship with your kids.
Up to this point the weekly tips have been suggested as a way of building a more trusting and fulfilling relationship with your children. But now we move to an important message that needs to be delivered using all the suggestions we have discussed up to now. In the program I developed called ” Building A New Relationship With Our Kids: 10 Steps To Success” number 9 speaks to the importance of learning/teaching them how to compete. This desire and ability to compete is vitally important because the world requires us to be competitors to be successful. It is true that the world treats ‘winners’ differently than it does those who are less successful. Competing has been painted as a negative thing by many parents. Many parents have adopted the saying–‘it’s not whether you win or lose but rather how you play the game’ and have drilled this into their kids. I agree that it is important to play the ‘game’ with fairness and respect for the other competitors. A victory at all costs doesn’t mean that others can be abused in some way. But to teach our children to not put their best effort into what they are doing is not a great way to teach success. Some competitors give their best and it is not near good enough in order to finish near the top. That is life and the lesson that goes with that is–‘ if you do the best you can and it is not enough so be it. You either work harder for the next time or you move on to something you are better suited for.’ Our kids need to understand that without their best effort put forth they only cheat themselves. We need to teach our children to win with class and to lose with dignity. Competition is not the ‘enemy’ but complacency is.
Video Of The Week:
Some of the things that they do that we never see and so we never talk about them. This is the other side of the story. Enjoy-I did
Anyways, that’s how I see it–all the best, Jim
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