I know there will be some readers who will see me as being anti Caitlyn. I guess we’ll both have to live with that. However, I can’t believe what just happened and it seems that very few out there-especially those professionals who have the opportunity and the where-with-all to speak their truth–haven’t. Are they that frightened of the backlash that may occur and the damage to their precious careers?? Wow.
I looked up the definition of courage in the ‘New World Dictionary–2nd Edition’ and it says:’ (heart, spirit) 1. the attitude of facing and dealing with anything recognized as dangerous, difficult, or painful, instead of withdrawing from it; quality of being fearless or brave; valor 2. mind; purpose; spirit–the courage of ones convictions, the courage to do what one thinks is right.’
Now unless I missed something I’m thinking that this whole show was a wonderful ratings gig that worked out really well for the networks. Not many missed the opportunity to see the new ‘Bruce’. I respect her right to do what she did. I believe that it was a very difficult personal decision for her to make and good for her that she had the support of those who love her to tell her to do what she needed to do so that she could experience the type of life she always felt she deserved. I have no beef with that at all. But this issue is a personal decision and a family decision not a public decision that is plastered all over social media and TV.
The people who should be ashamed of themselves are those executives and hangers-on who only saw a ratings spike that would make them millions. This was a tragic demonstration of how to turn someones real life experiences into a bonanza and to take advantage of America’s penchant to cheer for the underdog. I’m not sure Arthur would be proud of what happened the other night but I’m sure the proponents of the Political Correctness Camp were quite pleased. I just shake my head at those lemmings who don’t have the ‘stones’ to say what they really feel. There were so many people who just couldn’t fall over themselves fast enough to make sure they were on the ‘right’ side of this whole thing.
I got thinking about others who might be justifiably distraught at Caitlyn’s selection for this award. How about all those soldiers, fire fighters and police officers to name a few who do an outstanding job at saving lives and facing death EVERYDAY. Is this not a grand gesture of ‘courage’ they are required to demonstrate EVERYDAY on the job. Wow–what were you guys thinking? Oh yeah–ratings. If you were looking for recipients that were deserving of the award how about a guy named Jesse Owens–remember him? 1936 Olympian competing in front of Hitler who wasn’t Mr. Owens greatest supporter at the time or how about Wilma Rudolph. She overcame infantile paralysis, then suffered with polio and scarlet fever but overcame all of that. She had a leg brace on until she was twelve years old, endured and survived the hatred, EVERYDAY, that was directed her way only because she was black. Wilma went on to become the fastest woman on the planet–1960 Olympics. No big deal there eh? Or perhaps Ty Carter. Who you say? He’s the Army guy who was presented the Medal of Honor in 2013 for his 2009 battle field heroics from the same president who bestowed such great accolades on Caitlyn for her courage and bravery. How do they compare? People need to know who this guy is so that they can appreciate him for his heroics and true bravery. Apparently he saved many of his fellow soldiers lives that day. But then the battle field is only real life–it’s not Hollywood is it?
Courage seems to be a word that has now become one that is completely subjective and without a great deal of substance to it anymore. The Espys, although I understand they are symbolic of athletic achievement most often, are not totally sports related. There are many folks out there who experience very traumatic events, suffer though tremendous losses and continue to function, somehow, day after day. Perhaps they are parents of children who die or disappear, or they lose everything they own in a flood. These are truly courageous people.
I have no doubt that coming out in such a public way as Caitlyn has and being a role model of a sort will help many people who are trapped in a body that isn’t really theirs. But there are not many who can afford to make the changes that she has made which in some ways only exacerbates their feelings and their frustrations. The rationale of helping others falls a bit short here.
Sorry Caitlyn. The message you feel the need to deliver to others in similar situations could be made on any major talk show, radio show, TV show-night time/day time, newspaper or magazine on the planet. It didn’t need the Espys to be the forum–you could have passed with gratitude and thanks.
Anyways, that’s how I see it–Jim
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